The psychological aspects of cancer begin way before the first visit with the oncologist. For many, it begins after they have had their mammogram and are asked to stay seated in the “holding area” after their mammogram. They are told the radiologist wants to ensure the films are clear enough to read. For some the technician comes back and tells them they are OK to go, but for some, the technician tells them to follow her, the radiologist would like to speak with them. It’s at this point the mind starts to feed you with anxious thoughts. ” What does he want to see me about?”, ” no… there’s nothing there!”, “There must be some mistake!” And when you get in the room with the radiologist, he points to your films and shows you a spot, or possibly more which he is questioning and then tells you he would like you to go for a biopsy. All the while you are trying to hear what he is saying, trying to stay composed, even as your mind continues it’s internal chatter… BIOPSY oh no… CANCER!

You attempt to hold your composure until you at least have hit the front door, when you realize “the twins” have now entered your life… Fear… and Anxiety… And not to be outdone, their Big Sister Stressed Out. She plays a big part especially between the time you go for your biopsy and then again between the time of the biopsy and the results. Those three play havoc with your emotions. And sad to say, their cousin Depression, will come to visit also. The renegade cousin NO ONE wishes to have visit! And all of them can bring negative feelings to the forefront.

We often tell ourselves that our negative feelings aren’t productive, so why dwell on them? The answer to that question is that if those feelings aren’t resolved in some way, they won’t simply go away – and they can cause you both emotional and physical pain for years until you work them through. Read the rest of this entry »